Vice advice for dating rich girls
Only on very rare occasions, do they tell me they want to marry someone who is rich. Much of romantic fiction tells of a poor man or woman (usually a woman) who marries a very rich person and then leads an exciting and adventuresome life.
Thousands of people buy a lottery ticket every day with daydreams of suddenly becoming rich.
At some point along the way of psychotherapy, I usually ask my patients what they want to achieve in their lives.
After all, what they are doing is not working; otherwise they would not have come to therapy in the first place. Convincing someone to take boating lessons, for instance, is very hard when that person cannot imagine herself taking boating lessons.For those few patients who want to marry a really rich person (they say), this is the advice I give: HANG OUT IN THOSE PLACES WHERE VERY RICH PEOPLE HANG OUT!Here in Westchester County I recommend taking boating lessons at one of the very selective yachting clubs.Personally, I am not very impressed about the advantages of being rich, but advantages.You can buy an expensive automobile, which impresses some people.You can go on vacations where you can watch polar bears mate or see penguins walking around. (They are very expensive.) You can go to a different restaurant every day.You can afford to eat very strange foods, like nightingale tongues.The less familiar the cause is—like Ethiopian orphans, for instance—the more likely it is that the people invited will be very, very rich.These very, very rich people take pride in supporting charities that no one else has ever heard of. When you meet someone at one of these soirees (a really fancy party), you do not have to pretend to be rich yourself.They have fantasies of how much better life would be for them if only they were rich.Wouldn’t marrying a rich person be like winning the lottery?